Getting Miserable is Optional
I just read from a book an experience of an old lady who lost a child. Since her child’s death, she has been feeling weak and miserable. She also paid someone to put flowers in her child’s grave everyday. Until the doctor told her that she has got only a few weeks to live. So she decided to visit the grave herself. But she first fetched the caretaker of the grave and they went there together with her driver. As they were on the grave, sadness filled the old woman’s face. The caretaker wanted to tell the old woman something but hesitated. But later on, he decided to speak. He told the old woman that she needed not to pay him in providing flowers for her son’s grave. He has been a member of organizations where they visit sick people, or some people who needs care. Those people whom they visit would really love to receive flowers. So he suggested to the old woman that she give the flowers to those people who needs it. The old woman didn’t say anything, instead, she left.
Weeks later, the old woman came back to the caretaker, feeling totally ok. She has realized what the caretaker has told her and followed his advice. It made her feel good and stronger that she has helped people to feel better with the flowers she gave them.
With that story, being miserable indeed is optional. When her child died, she opted to get herself weaker and grieve over her lost. It is understandable to mourn over the lost ones after they died. But life should not stop there for the ones they left. They should move on with their lives. There are other people who truly needs them. People who can be saved by their touching love and care.
We are all given an option, let us choose the right and the good one for us. We will not be given an option if it’s not for the better.