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Depression are mostly caused by failure to accept reality.  When something bad happens to us, we feel depressed.  When we fail, we get sad and stuck to that feelings.  Certain situations in our lives makes us quit our goals.  Loss of a loved one is understandably a grief moment for us.  It feels so hard to move on from that.  Having financial problems sometimes gives us a feeling of self-pity and feels like we could no longer achieve our dreams.

What we really need to get off that feeling and start moving on is acceptance.  If we lost someone we truly love, is there any way to get them back?  Of course none.  So why would we let ourself get stuck to depression or fear?  We only need to accept the fact that they are gone.  Sounds easy, huh?  We may not accept it that easy but we need to start doing it so that we could start to move on.  Eventually, we can fully accept it.

If you are an average person when it comes to financial status, accept it.  Because if you won’t, tendency is you’ll act and spend like a millionaire.  But if you have accepted it, you can enjoy the things that you can afford.  Better yet, you’ll have the strong desire to earn more for a living.

Acceptance leads us to the right path of our goal.  Remember that we need to accept reality because we’re living in a world of reality.  To keep us moving on to our goals, accept whatever consequences we face with our decisions.  We may make mistakes, but to accept it is the answer to get moving.

When we are stuck into a situation wherein we say, “we had no choice,” that’s why we did nothing. Did you realize that there is no such thing as no choice? To do nothing is a choice. We chose not to do anything. When we left with no choice. What do you do? You choose the last choice, right?

I just seen the movie where a journalist landed on an editor-in-chief assistant of a highly-respected fashion magazine. Her boss is very strict that she is even known of it in the fashion world. Employees fear her presence. The journalist here on the other hand is very new to the fashion world and the editor just ventured on having an assistant who is smart even though doesn’t have a good fashion sense. She adjusted her way of living just to retain her job and to satisfy her boss. Her relationship with her boyfriend and her friends even got affected. When she was in Paris with her boss, she was asked why she was there. She said that she had no choice. But her boss told her that of course she had the choice and she chose to be there. She chose to be in her position, she chose to be on a job where “every woman would die to have.” It was then that she realized that it was not what she wanted. So instead of accompanying her boss, she went back home and reconciled with her boyfriend and friends whom she has hurt. She applied in a publishing company and was surprised to know that her ex-boss called the publisher and said to him that she was her ex-boss’ biggest disappointment, and that he (the publisher) will be an idiot if he didn’t keep her.

Remember that we could always choose to say no. In every choice we make, we must also be ready with the consequences and we must also know our limits. Never let any of our loved ones get affected by our decisions. We just actually need to be responsible with the decisions that we make.

A man lost in a forest found a lamp. He didn’t know that it was a magical lamp.He rubbed the lamp and suddenly a double of himself appeared in front of him.

He said, ” Hi, how are you doing.”

“Oh, so so,” said the stunned onlooker.

“What can I do for you ?”, asked the double image.

“Can you make any wish come true?”, replied the man.

“Your wish is my command, said the genie double, doesn’t that sound wishy-washy ?”, he added.

“Ok my friend, make me happy ” ?

“Pouf, let it be done in your mind.”

“Make me strong without limitations.”

“Pouf, let it be done in your mind.”

“Make me rich beyond my wildest dreams.”

“Pouf, let it be done in your mind.”

“Oh genie of mine (the genie smiled at the thought of his double), my wishes are true right now.”

“Yes, yes, yes, you are blessed in this life.”

“Pouf and the genie disappeared into thin air.”

source:http://www.motivational-story.com/

Do you believe in the genie inside you?  The story above is an inspiring one.  If there is anything you want in life, believe in yourself to achieve it.  Put in mind that you’ll get hold of it.  Staying positive in life makes us succeed with our goals or dreams.  Picturing out our dreams coming true helps us motivated in our way to reaching it.

Writing a journal can be a lot of help. In achieving a goal, goal setting is a big help. Writing it down may be better. Then you can write down the things you need to do in order to achieve it. It is a way of planning your actions as well. As you are on your way to success, you may write a journal of your progress.

A journal may help you analyze your current situation. If you have a goal of traveling around the world, fill your journal with places you’ve already been to. It will keep you motivated to continue going to other places and also to check which place you’ve never been to. You can then plan out where to go next.

There are a number of things a journal can help you. You can express the thoughts on your mind which really helps you feel better. If there is anything you want to let out of your mind but can’t do it verbally, use the journal. Writing down your goal in your journal more often might help you get motivated in achieving it.

Most importantly, don’t forget to read your journal.

Usually, in goal setting, taking small steps is part of achieving your goals.  I have even mentioned it here in my recent posts as part of goal setting.  Not only with goal setting but with getting motivated as well.  Taking small steps really helps and so I am writing about it not just as a part of any posts but as a subject.

When you don’t feel like doing a task you don’t like but you are obliged to do it, take the small step.  Start from the easiest part to condition yourself for the task.  At first you may really feel uninterested with the task.  But if you have started it already, you may not notice that you are already doing it little by little.  It may not be easy to start it because you are not interested.  So to start, do the easy part.  Then continue doing the task little by little.  You’ll be then surprised that you are almost finished with the task.  Just think how good it feels when you have finished doing a task you are not even interested.

With bigger tasks or even goals,  you may feel overwhelmed thinking how difficult it is that you get discouraged doing it.  Taking the small steps is effective in this situation.  Break down your tasks or goals into small parts and you do them one by one so that you won’t feel how big the task or goal is.

Life.  It isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass.  To fully live life, learn to dance in the rain.  Sing the song even if you do not know the tune.  Give your best despite the fear and the nervousness that you feel.  Recite a poem even if it doesn’t rhyme.

Take risks.  That’s what life is.  You should live it and sometimes you need to take risks.  Taking risks doesn’t mean you are being tactless with your actions.  In taking risks, be responsible and think of what you do.  Taking risks means that you should face your fears, never let opportunities just pass you by.

Have you experienced it sometimes that you have second thoughts about doing something and it actually takes you long to decide?  Then you realize that if you have done it earlier, you might have been finished already?  But you are still stuck there still thinking if you’ll do it or not.  I usually experience it when asked for an errand.  I complain that the store is far from the house that I don’t want to go there just to buy something my mother asked me to buy.  I have been complaining for minutes already.  But if I went to the store the moment she asked me to, I could have been back already.

Remember that every minute you waste is a minute you’ll never get back.  With the lost time, there’s nothing you can do but to regret.  You regret for not taking action immediately.

“We are unique.”  That’s what we always hear or read.  But do we really believe that we are unique?  Does thinking of our uniqueness help us feel better whenever we feel insecure of ourselves?  It should.  Just think of your strengths and your advantages towards people.  We all have our advantages and disadvantages of our features.  What’s the best thing to do?  Use your advantages and don’t think of the things or characteristics that you do not possess.  Of course you cannot possess all.  Instead, be thankful of the traits or the features that you have and use it to your good advantage.  As mentioned, you are unique.  So there is no one who has the same advantages as you have.

Enjoy your uniqueness.  You may want to have what others have but you can’t.  Why do you aspire what you do not have when you have your own which might be even better than what others have?  Others may even be jealous of you, too.  So, never pretend to like someone else.  No one is meant to be like you nor others to be like somebody.  You can’t change it easily.  So, treasure your uniqueness.  It is meant for you.  If you feel bad about yourself, think of the things that people like about you or what they may like about you.  People know you for being you.  They treasure you because of your uniqueness, so treasure it as well.

Situational or circumstantial depression happens only in a particular situation that if it is changed, the depression will subside.  Though there is nothing wrong to be depressed of a situational loss, and the likes, it can become worse if you put negative thoughts or ideas, doubts, and fears.  In circumstantial depression, what’s important is to not let yourself be overridden by negativity.  Always think of the positive things.

This means that with circumstantial problems, we can prevent ourselves to get much depressed.  It is in our control to move on with these problems.  Staying positive is one way to get over it.  It makes us get stronger and not lose hope over things.  In times of problems, we really need strength to pass it.  Depression won’t do us any help.

We may not be sometimes aware that we are falling into depression already.  So during circumstantial problems, we must watch ourselves to see if we are trapped in depression.  If we are, we must think of moving out of it and start living again.

A quote from Jim Carey:

“I hope everybody would get rich and famous and will have everything they ever dreamed of so they will know that it’s not the answer.”

So what really is the answer? In achieving our dreams in life, the greatest thing that we have achieved really is not our dream but the lessons, experience, and maybe friends we gained. Have you noticed that when you were on the process of getting hold of that dream, you wanted to rush things up so that you’ll have it already? But when you are near the finishing point of that dream, you reminisce the hardships, enjoyment, success in passing every trial, that you feel like you wouldn’t want to go to the finish line first.

Just like in school. Your goal is to finish your studies to apply the things you have learned. But why do we cry during graduation day? Because we’ll be on our own and when we find new company, we still reminisce those days we were with old friends. On how we passed those trials, faced the troubles, and the likes.

So in everything we do in the pursuit of achieving our goals, take time to appreciate the things we pass on the road. Never forget the people we encountered, especially those who helped us or left a mark in our hearts during the trip to our success. Those things and people make us grow and make us stronger in facing the next chapter of our lives.